8 Mar, 2022#198 Life Lessons from Bob Proctor
“You are the only problem you will ever have and you are the only solution. Change is inevitable, personal growth is always a personal decision.” – Bob Proctor
Bob Proctor has made a huge impact on my life. His life is an example of why you need to keep making goals that excite you.
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In this episode, listen as I talk about the lessons I learned from Bob Proctor and how his words helped me in becoming who I am today.
✅ Satisfaction and Happiness are two different things. To be satisfied is to be comfortable and to be comfortable is to stay still. This means you are dying. Not really reaching for anything.
✅ Create a new version of yourself. If your goals do not scare you and excite you, they are not big enough.
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✍🏼(4:42) Reflecting on what Bob Proctor talked about how we shouldn’t be satisfied, how we should keep making goals.
✍🏼(10:20) Bob Proctor shares how we become the product of our environment, how we think but never internalised our thoughts.
✍🏼(22:33) Bob Proctor shares how attraction is a very powerful process. We have to be open to the good we want to receive in our lives.
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Pete Cohen 0:00
Happy beautiful day. Welcome to the Mi365 podcast. today's podcast is life lessons from the awesome Bob Proctor. I will see you after the theme tune.
Bob Proctor 0:44
We repeatedly become fixed in your subconscious mind. And those thoughts are going to determine what happens in your life.
Pete Cohen 0:56
Happy beautiful day. Thank you so much for joining me for the podcast. That was Bob Proctor. If you don't know who Bob Proctor is, well, you're about to find out. He is someone who's probably had the one of the biggest influences in my life. I'd say maybe not who knows maybe pulling a number out of the sky there have been 10 people who I've really studied their work and really went out of my way to really understand go deep because they resonated with me and when you know when you hear about success, success always leaves clues and when you hear people that have developed themselves and names keep coming up like Jim Rohn Bob Proctor, Tony Robbins, it's probably a good idea to to go and follow these people. But the danger often is that you pay lip service to what people are saying and that's the danger of actual self development. You know, self development can be shelf development, where you can have a not a lot of knowledge like a librarian, because they've probably come across lots of books, but knowledge is not power, its potential power. I didn't say that. Who said that? Well, I've heard Bob Proctor say. And Bob Proctor was born in 1934. And he passed away a few days ago. And in this podcast, I want to kind of trip you know, lay bring some of his ideas to life for some of you that maybe don't know who this person was and what he did. But he he dedicated his life to study I mean, that's one of the things I really understand about him. And I learned that from him. The real discipline of study and a lot of people don't like that word, the discipline of inputting your brain to create new paradigms. And that was again, something that he spoke a lot about about paradigms and I think it's just such a beautiful thing that I want to share with you and self image, how we see ourself how we see ourselves, shapes everything. So I came across Bob Proctor, I left university in my first degree was in 1991. And then when I did my second degree, I left and I was completely Muslim as a delusional I really was not in a good place. I really did not have a clue what I was going to do. I really, really was hopeless I just remember thinking I'll remember feeling really confused. Because I'd spent all these years studying information yet. I didn't actually know how to help anybody. I really didn't and the person I really didn't know how to help was myself. For me University was a waste of time. In one respect, it wasn't a waste of time in friendships. It wasn't a waste of time, in having fun, but it was definitely a waste of time in learning, learning stuff that I could really apply to my life. I'm just being honest. This is just my story. It was exactly the same with school. I wish that I'd had teachers like Bob Proctor at school. Even just him just that one teacher who could have taught me how to use the equipment that I have my mind and my body to full effect. Now I don't know about you. But I think that I
Pete Cohen 4:16
I've got a few ways that I still think and act that possibly don't serve me. You know, are you one of those people? Are you one of those people? That there are certain things about yourself that maybe you'd like to change? Are you where you want to be? Are you where you want to be with your health? Are you where you want to be with your your your energy, your relationships, your wealth, your work are you where you where you want to be? And I'm going to pick out some of the key things that he talked about. So one of the things Bob Proctor talked about was you should never be satisfied. Now for some people when you say that that means more than you can ever be happy and he said no satisfaction and happiness are two different things. You should always be happy. Why not? But to be satisfied for him was to be comfortable. And to be comfortable means you're staying still. And for him that meant that basically you were dying. This is one of the reasons he lived to a ripe old age because he was always learning he was up every single day 530 In the morning, writing 10 things that he was grateful for. He was a massive fan of journaling, massive fan of meditating. He was a massive fan of just getting better. And I think that deep down most of us would love the idea of getting better, but it's not going to happen. And most people will be in a very similar situation to where they are now next year, unless they wake up. And that's what Bob's work was hugely about. It was about becoming aware. Now we all know about this stuff about coming aware becoming aware of why you are the way you are. I remember reading something where he was actually citing an educator who said 2% of people think for themselves. 3% of people think they're thinking for themselves and 95% of people would rather die than think because thinking takes energy thinking takes time. Why not just sit and just vegetate and not think in a way that produces the results that you want. See, Bob talked about that the higher faculties that human beings have right as far as we know, other animals don't have these higher faculties there are six intuition, perception will memory, reason and imagination. And he talks about how these are things that we need to cultivate. These are things that we we have to develop at school you're not taught to be intuitive, you're not taught to have use your perceptions. You're not taught to delay gratification and understand the importance of well, of reasoning of making sense of things. Looking at other people's point of view maybe to a certain extent a little bit University. Definitely not encouraged to use your imagination. You're just encouraged to learn information for yourself. Maybe have your own opinion about what other people say and then get marked on that and your ability to remember things and regurgitate them and never use them again. And that's not just University. I think that's school. For many people. And you know, Bob Proctor failed massively at school became a multi millionaire simply because when he was in his 20s he met someone who always seemed to be happy always seem to have money. And he said to him, Look, if you do exactly what I tell you to do, your life is gonna change and if you read this book, and he gave him a copy of thinking Grow Rich and I can see my copy just over there. It's just almost at arm's length. And Bob Proctor literally read that book inside out upside down. He's still got a copy if you YouTube him and you see some of his videos, you can see that book that he's read multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple times. He decided to go and develop himself and most people aren't deciding to develop themselves. And this is why his work needs to be heard like never before. And it's sad that he's now locked. He's no longer here. Because what happened for me, you know, in my life, I followed a few people like I said, I followed literally followed Tony Robbins I followed Richard Bandler the guy that started Neuro Linguistic Programming, I follow Dr. Wayne Dyer. I followed Brene Brown, you know, the Merce myself in these people's content, I immersed myself in a few other people and my coach and a coach for 16 years of my life. And I learned so much and I love studying I'm addicted to studying I'm addicted to learning. And I know most people the idea of that maybe doesn't fill them with joy but the idea of learning something that fills you up with something that changes the vibration in your body that then you could then go out and make a difference to the people around you. So perhaps you could become more intuitive more have more perception greater will greater memory, greater reason and using your imagination. You see, when you hear Bob Proctor talk, he changed the way I looked at things or he didn't actually change it. I just listened to him and through listening and learning I changed
Pete Cohen 9:34
I became the change and I am becoming the change that I want to see. What about you? Really, you know what about you? Are you ready to become someone that is different to the person that you are and many of you now can probably understand who listened to the podcast and listen to me talk many times you start saying oh Pete I see where you get your your influence from I see where? Yeah, absolutely. It's taking an idea and using it myself so it becomes my own and then sharing it with other people. I mean, what's the point of life unless you decide to share it. And I want to take a moment now to talk about something that he used to share a lot. And that's all about paradigms. Take a listen to this.
Bob Proctor 10:27
That's genetic conditioning. Then when you made your debut on the planet, your subconscious mind was wide open. The intellect was not developed, their conscious mind had not developed. Your subconscious mind was wide open and you became a product of your environment. It's why you speak the language you speak. It's why you eat most of the food that you eat, you say you like you're programmed to like it. You're programmed to eat it. And that goes on for a number of years. And then our intellect develops. We have the ability then to think and control our own behavior. Unfortunately, most people don't we think but we never internalize the thoughts. And you see that conditioning is all his information in the subconscious mind is controlling our behavior. Our company has built programs that are highly successful
Pete Cohen 11:21
and that's why I've looked and studied and paid for those many of those programs and I am who I am today because of the input that I put in my inputs have shaped my output. So when I left university I really didn't know what that was doing. I was I remember feeling actually quite depressed. And I decided to go on holiday and I just said to a friend of mine Can you recommend a book for me to read? And he recommended a book chords over the top by Zig Ziglar and I read that book and it just blew me away. I couldn't believe what I was reading. I'd spent years studying in university I read nothing like this. The book was speaking to me. It literally was like the words I could feel that I was underlining and everything I was talking to my partner at the time he really wasn't interested in what I was saying in this book is talking about habits and beliefs and and rising up above the ideas that you had of yourself. And that is where I when I came home I went into a bookstore I said do you have any books like this? And the guy recommended Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins. So I read that book and again, I I kept that book for years. I lent it to someone. But I'd literally just drawn in the book, underline, underline, underline and then I started teaching and then I started applying some of those principles to the weight loss program that I that I started that we sold to a medical insurance company in 2003 for 2.4 million pounds. Now even at that time, I didn't really understand many of the principles about wealth, but I definitely understood the principles around richness. And his book, his New York time, best selling book, Bob Proctor you were born rich, really just talks about we were all born with the same abilities. Most of us are very lucky enough, but it's our programming and that's where he talks about our paradigm. And our paradigm is a multiple, multiple multitude of ideas that our subconscious mind basically is controlling our subconscious mind which controls our habits. And as Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about about 95% of who we are by the time we're about 35 years old is a set of conditions habits, and thoughts and feelings and actions. So it's fascinating, don't you think? We have this paradigm of this is who I am the paradigm think of a paradigm like the programming of the computer, then then the program works the paradigm and it just works. It just works. Of course it can get a virus. But for us, we are who we think we are. This is me this is my paradigm. And so if we stop and realize what he would talk about your self image, which is you know, the early years of your life, just waking up to what happened. What the hell happened to you? Well, it's what happened to most of us, you know, we were we were programmed. Then it is there's the genetic element of this, you know, was what was passed down. You know, you look like your parents. Well, what else was passed down? There's that element to hear. But for me, I'm talking about the psychological conditioning that we had, that we bought, is it any? Is it any wonder that most people we weren't think about how hard we all worked to fit in Think about that. When you were at school, maybe maybe I wasn't the only one. thought Well, who do I hang around with? I'm not hanging around on my own because if if anyone hang around on their own, they would have been rejected. No one wants to be rejected. So you did what you did to fit in. So what did you do? What did you give up on? Your hopes, your dreams, your ambitions just to fit in? I don't know about you, but I was someone who learned to smoke to drink to take drugs. Why? Because I wanted to fit in. So I fit it into the a world that really didn't feel quite right. But I felt accepted that I didn't accept myself. And it was only when I really started to do some work and look at myself and take some responsibility for who I was and how I was thinking and then I realized that if I didn't change, I'd be dead. Personally, I don't think I would be here. If I hadn't decided to really look at what the experience of me was like. And this is another word that Bob Proctor uses a lot and I wasn't a big fan of this word ignorance because I think of that word ignorant as in like, You're stupid. But for him ignorance and if you look at what the word means, it doesn't say stupid in the dictionary. It just basically means it's a lack of knowledge. It's a lack of understanding. In I've spent I'm 52 this year, and really immerse myself in this stuff for more probably since 1992.
Pete Cohen 16:09
That's quite a long time, isn't it? I've written 20 books on this and I'm as excited and as motivated to help people but not to be motivated by look, this is one of the things that he also talks about, about the the motivation of what is driving people motivation. 1.0 You know, that's the kind of survival instinct of motivation just to survive. And most people are running on that on that motivation. And maybe they don't have a choice, but maybe you do. And maybe you have a choice also to go beyond the carrot and stick. If you do this, you get that you get rewarded. If you don't do that you get punished that's how many of us were bought up. That's what life was like. Many of us, we lost what motivation 3.0 which is determinate self determination where you decide who you're going to become. You decide the change that you want to see in this world, and you begin to let go of what you don't need and you begin to create a new version of you would not be amazing. See what Bob Proctor also talks about is many people in their life have have created greatness, but how much of that was done consciously. They actually decided who that person was, or how much how much was it life circumstances that happened that were difficult and challenging, and you rose up to those challenges, rather than consciously deciding who is the person that you're going to become? You know, when he said never be satisfied with what you've got, I know a lot of people who I've worked with they said, that's wrong, that that he shouldn't say that. Is that what no he did say that but if you if you really listened to what he was saying, what he was actually saying is that you should be happy everyone should be happy and joyful because of just the life that you have. That to SAP to be satisfied. means you've basically I don't need anything. Well, I don't know about you. What do you need? Do you need to grow? Do you need to advance do you need what do you need to do? Do you need to experience more love more gratitude? Again, everyone's different. So there's no one way that is right for everyone. I'm going to ask you a few questions. I'm going to ask you right now. How do you feel about where you are right now? You don't have to judge a man to criticize it. Are you where you want to be? Is there stuff if you still got something left in the basement? You know, one of those lines in Brockie when he fights for that however many hundreds time, you know he's still got something there. He's still got something within him. You see, I love so many things that Bob Proctor talked about so many things, like little things make a big difference. Thinking into results in a he asks why I really, really learned this is when I really woke up. I'd left I'd studied sports psychology. I didn't know how to work with anybody. I could sit down and listen to someone which isn't, which isn't a bad thing. Some people feel so much better when they make sense of it in terms of tools of transformation, but no idea nothing. Nothing Not one tool not even learning about meditation and mindfulness of didn't even talk about that as a tool to help yourself and help athletes. But it was when he explained to me and I remember reading this about imagination and Imagineering right? And then he would talk imagine what you want. And he would talk about some of the athletes that Bob Proctor worked with and one particular one who was a world champion. And he said that he got that person to imagine the results that they had and to it to emotionalize it to feel it. And I thought wow, is that possible? And I thought about it about myself working with athletes. I thought about myself. This sounds crazy. I was in London in 1996. I was at the Congress Center in great Russell Street. I was doing my NLP Master Practitioner with Richard Bandler and I was also reading some stuff about Bob Proctor and I wrote down on a piece of paper all these things I wanted to do. And I I wish I still got it somewhere. I just don't know where it is. I took it to an event I did that some of you are at it which was the most ironic thing that that event. The some of you listening to that you were at that event, and I pulled it out on I showed everyone I said look, I wrote this down in 1996. And it was I want to be the author of 10 books. I want to be on television. I want to there was a number of things I want to work with world after World World Olympic champions in sport and I wrote it down. But I read and this is the the amount the amazing thing and it's only now when I reflect on this that I realized what the hell I was doing. I didn't really know what I was doing. I was just doing it because he talked about thinking into results. I didn't just write them down.
Pete Cohen 21:02
And just and that was it. I then imagined myself having those results. I engineered it. I felt it I felt connected to it and that's where most people are missing in life. They are not connected to their results. It's just words that are written down. They don't know that person. And as I've gotten older and as I've got better that was 1996 What could you do if you really connected to the person that has the results that you're looking for Bob Proctor for me was one of the greatest thinkers of the modern era, who from the academic world will probably never get the recognition that he that he deserves and it's really fascinating because the academics who have studied neuroscience and studied, you know, psychology, most of those people would never have heard of Bob Proctor. Yet the amount of people that he has influenced in helping people change their paradigm helped people change their self image to become a completely different person help people go from being ignorant, to being intuitive to using their imagination to live life via intention. If you don't know Bob Proctor, I would literally you can still follow him you can still be a part of what his company does because his his company will live on. But let's just take a few moments just to listen to a few more words from Bob Proctor.
Bob Proctor 22:38
Make no mistake about it. Now if you're holding thoughts of lack and limitation that's what you're going to attract no more most people don't understand this and the attract what they don't want rather than what they do want. You got to start seeing what you want. Well if you want good in your life, quit trying to change the bad quit trying to get rid of the bad. Let it go. Let the dead bury the dead. Let it be part of the past. Start to see the good that you desire. See it as present in your mind. The second you've got the idea in your mind. You've got it intellectually. The second you internalize it, you've got it emotionally and then it's only a period of time until you attracted physically. Attraction is a very powerful process. We've got to realize that everything we're seeking is seeking us. We've got to be open to the good that we're looking for in life. We've got to understand the only way to receive good is to give good we got to put it out and we take it on. This is an order of the universe and energy is forever moving. You have to understand that your life is full right now. Now may not be full of what you want, but your life is full. If your calendar is full all your time is spoken for. Who say well, it's really not I got a lot of wasted time. That's how you're using it then we must replace the waste with productivity.
Pete Cohen 24:17
So powerful. You know, I I encourage all of you now just to take a moment and think that if Bob Proctor was here right now, what would he say to you? Whether you've only just heard him speak for the first time or whether you've had the opportunity to read, learn watch even be in His presence. What would he say to you? For me, is very clear. What he's saying to me is keep doing what you're doing. Keep looking to touch the hearts and minds of people. He's not here anymore in the physical form, but guess what you are and what are you going to do with what you have? See for me, I'm at a point at my life now where I'm clearer than ever as to who I'm becoming and how I want to help and serve people and it's helping people live by great intentions. See, the word intention is a great word. The word intention basically is the means and it's synonymous with an aim a goal and objective a target and ambition. But why did we give up on our intentions? Well, part of the reason is that we are trying to create new personal realities but with the same personality with the same identity. And many of you have heard me say this before that the word identity basically means a solid state. It's a solid state of who you are and most people will defend their identity. This is me. This is me this is who I am. But the greatest thing we'll ever do is become someone different. Become better, more happier, more fulfilled, but that's where the work is. And everything we do right now is about helping people live by great intentions because a great intention is when you intend to do something you're fixed on something but with an intention, it's something you could do, or you might not do. And it's one of the oldest words in the world of the Sanskrit world word, meaning a hero in the beginning that we can start something with great intentions, but not follow through. Is it not time for you to bring your intentions into play? Is it not time for you to show the world what you're really made of? Is it not time for you to learn how to think greater than you feel? I'm extremely grateful to Bob Proctor and I will carry his wisdom and his teachings with me and share them with the world. Rest in peace, my friend. And thank you for everything that you have done. I appreciate you. Thanks for listening to the podcast, and we'll see you next time.