5 Apr, 2022Why Do I Struggle to Take Responsibility for My Life?
“The moment you accept responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you gain the power to change anything in your life.” – Hal Elrod
I am incredibly determined to become more than I am today and leave a mark on this earth. What about you? Have you ever thought about who you could be? Are you even enthusiastic about the future you?
Do you want to be the best version of yourself? Then, listen to today’s episode as I explain why it is so difficult to take responsibility for our lives and how this prevents us from becoming the person we want to be.
✅ Most people do not know who they want to be. All they know is who they are and who they were.
✅ People who live highly in survival mode are unable to think about their future self.
✅ People think lowly of themselves and thus do not realize that they can change for the better.
✅ People avoid challenges and pain and are shortsighted by things that give pleasure.
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✍🏼 (14:18) Caveman in relation to our inability to account for our life
✍🏼 (31:00) Jimmy Donaldson as someone who has a relationship with his future self
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Pete Cohen 0:00
Happy beautiful, amazing, fantastic supercalifragilistic expialidocious day it's Pete Cohen. It is the Mi365 podcast. Today's podcast is called Why Do I Struggle to Take Responsibility For My Life?
I will see you after the theme tune.
Mine the gap, mine the gap, mine the gap
Sorry, everyone. I'm just a London tube station, an embankment station on the London Underground. And sorry, the voice that you can hear in the background. It's just someone who's just telling you just to basically watch out because when the tube comes, there's a little gap between the station and getting on it. So you don't want to you don't you don't want to step in the gap. So just excuse me while I get on the damn on the tube. There you go.
Pete Cohen 1:24
I love that sound effect. It's a sound effect that I've known through through my life from six and seven years old when I was allowed to go on the tube. There was a couple of stations where you heard that voice. And it wouldn't Who would have believed that however many years later, 45 years later on, I'm playing that on my podcast, but I'm playing it for a specific reason. Mine the gap is something I'm genuinely interested in just in terms of are there gaps between where we want to be and where we are, you know, ultimately? Well, that's what I do. You know, I'm a coach, right? So the role of a coach is you've got to ask someone where they want to go, they've come to you for a reason. But what's fascinating is that most people who have ever come to me come to me because they've got a problem and they actually don't know where they want to go. It's fascinating. You know, it's taken me years to kind of work this out even myself. I just knew what I didn't want. I was talking to a woman just a few hours ago. About her health. She wanted to improve her health. So I was just listening to her. So I said, Tell me what you want. And she said I want to be fit and strong and unhealthy. I said, Well, how would you know? How would you know that you were? And she said well, because I would see that and then I went okay, what you're imagining right now, is that you in the past was kind of a hunch? And she said yes. I'm still surprised when people tell me that because then I say excuse me. I don't know whether you know this, but you can't go back in time. You will maybe you can I just haven't worked that out yet. But you can't go back and be who you were. You can be a version of yourself but you can't be that person that person's gone. And the reason I one of the biggest reasons because there's many Why do people struggle to take responsibility for their life? Well, one of the big reasons is they don't know the person that they want to be all they know is the person that they are. I mean it's obvious right? But it's so obvious that we miss we miss it. And I've talked about this many times you know when I started in my professional career very insecure young man 19 years old at university, night working in a gym, people coming in, I was very self conscious at a lot that I had a lot going on in my head at the time, because of what I had to do with the assessment but you do an assessment with someone you do their body fat, you weigh them, you do their flexibility, then you give them a piece of paper which basically shows them that they're they're poor. They're average. You just design them a program, you take them around the program, they're so confused. They don't know what the hell's going on. And then you give them a card and say see you next time. Now it was a pretty good gym because we had to engage, you know, we, if we didn't have a client, we had to go and talk to people. So we wanted people to have results but it didn't take me very long to realize that people didn't like exercise. But it wasn't just the fact that they didn't like exercise. They like the way it made them feel when it was finished. But it was simply really they don't identify with themselves as a fitter, healthier person and if you don't identify with that you will never have empathy for someone you don't know. It's very hard to have empathy. So there's a gap. There's an empathy gap. And I know and I'm curious as to what other people think about this, because you know, I'm still figuring this all out. I'm really interested but I've spent my life looking for answers. And people often you know, if you Google my name, you know, you probably see that motivational Mote man of motivation, or I don't even know I might even just Google my name as I'm speaking to you right now and see, see what comes up what comes up Pete Cohen Well, my speaker so the first thing you see is you see why Pete Cohen motivation has a very short that's interesting. You see what you see my Twitter, you see our videos on YouTube, you can see all the stuff I've done on television. There's I mean, you could spend probably a year going through the stuff that I've put out there on on social media, but you know, I do what I do, because I'm just fascinated with where are you? Where do you want to go? But if you don't know where you are, if you don't know where you're going to go, where are you going to end up? Well, probably somewhere very similar to where you are now. And it's very easy for us to give ourselves a hard time about this. And I really want to kind of break this down and just really dive into the whole thing of why do people struggle to take responsibility Oh, doing anything different is a challenge, right? If I said to you, listen, tomorrow morning, set your alarm. What time do you get up? Five o'clock? Wow, that's early. Why don't you get up at three and see what happens. See the challenge that you have. I'm not suggesting that you do that. Right? Or if I said hey, listen, with your knife and fork. which hand do you put your knife and fork in? flip them around, you'd see there's a struggle with most things that we haven't done before. Something that is difficult, something that is challenging and human beings. One thing that we tend to favor and it's so important for people to get a different perspective of this. We favor conserving energy. You know, that's what we favor. Why? Why would we favor conserving energy so that we have energy when we need it? I mean, it's obvious right? But if you think about how we live now to how we live, we can't get away from our evolution. You know, we try to get away from it. Which we try to justify that it's okay to sit down for long periods of time we, we try to justify that it's okay to put chemicals in and all over our bodies. We tried to kind of justify that but we are not designed to live in this world. We are not designed to live in in the world that we now have. Right? Everyone knows this. But I think it's really important just to go way back and look at life with a fresh pair of eyes. So we have survival instincts, and many people live with those survival instincts on high alert. And that's what part of what I want to talk to you about today is it's hard for us to take responsibility for anything when we're living in survival mode, where we don't see the point. We don't see the point past the day. The week, the month, which is trying to get by. Why would you want to take responsibility for anything beyond that, that you can't see that you don't have a relationship with him? Just take a moment to think about it. And I'm not saying that if you could show everyone and say hey, just like Ebenezer Scrooge, just like that story. That when Scrooge is seen is shown his future, how it could turn out. He is seriously motivated to move away from it because then all of a sudden, he has a relationship to a future that has beyond the day, the week, the month.
Pete Cohen 8:26
This makes sense. I mean, just take a moment to to to look at what I'm saying here that if I could show you and this is what people often don't like me saying it's like, look, tell me about where you are right now. The results that you've got in your life and the results that most people are looking for better results. We call it the big three it's their health. How many of you would like better health if all you had to do is say Pete give me better health please thank you very much. I don't You don't even have to tell me what I'd have to think about. Because if you're asking me to tell me what how I would be if I was healthy it no no, don't even tell me that. I'm just going to give it to you. But all you've got to do is tell me you want better health. You don't have to define it. You just want it. If you did define it you probably say I want less weight on my body. I want a six pack. Be toned muscles. I want flexibility. I want mobility. Great you want it? So there's a gap there Right? Could your health be better than what it is right now? Probably what about your relationships? Could your relationships be better with the people around you? Is that possible? You know with your with your I always think about the relationship with my wife. I know that relationship can be better. What about you? The relationships with the people around you that matter? Most could they be better? Could your relationship with yourself be better would you like to have less of an internal battle in your own mind? I mean, would you if you didn't have to do anything? Just wave the magic wand. How many of you would say Pete just wave the wand? And what about with your work and your wealth? How many of you would like more money more clients? You know you just like all you have to do is say it and then you'd have it? Well, that's what the kind of world that we're we've kind of bought up into is you know, all you've got to do is have the desire and the one and pay your money and you get your result that we know that's not the case. So can we start off from just the truth of there are gaps between where we are and where we want to be. Now, just as an aside, I think it's really important to look at the gap as a as a game to be made that you're in a game now. Because if you start from the place and this is why a lot of people don't take responsibility for their life because they they think that they're in a place where they're not good enough. Right then they're not quite right the way that they are. And I'm sure many of us can relate to that. Because we basically live in a world that wants us to feel that way. What if we all decided today or tomorrow today right now at this moment that we all decided to feel really good about ourselves and we didn't need anything else than apart from what we really had. We just needed the bare essentials we didn't need, you know big houses, big cars, you know, new new clothes we could just make do with what we have. And just imagine we all decided to go to a big shopping center and we all walk around going in all the shops not buying anything. And then we convince more and more people to join our group, our culture, our clan, our cult, you know, how long would it be until we got asked to get out? Because we didn't fit in? Because we decided to take responsibility. You know, deciding to take responsibility is not an easy thing to do. Because it means really looking at your life. And looking at it differently. We live in a world that is is really dependent on us not feeling good about ourselves on it in a world where where we feel uncomfortable, where our attention is being sold to the highest bidder or our attention is being sold to by whoever wants to you know, whether it's Facebook, whether it's Instagram, whatever it is, these outlets, the media wants to grab our attention and take our attention where you know there's a part of the brain called the reticular activating system which is basically looking out for what you're looking out for. What have you chosen to look out for? Most people are looking out for what's wrong, what's missing what they haven't got, and then they wonder why they keep on getting what they keep getting. Most people are trying to create a new personal reality with the existing personality. And it's crazy. You think you really think that you're going to get you what you want with being who you are. No, I don't think so. You know, Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about this a lot about when people are around the age of 35 years old. 95% of who they are is a set of conditioned responses, ideas, beliefs, attitudes. So if you change which most people will change through pain and suffering, good luck in breaking the 95% of who you think you are, which is your identity, and I've talked about this a lot on the podcast around the word identity means a very well organized concept of self. This is me. So if you start behaving in a different way to a way that you don't normally behave like you go to the gym, you don't identify with someone who's fit slim unhealthier. You identify with someone who's overweight eats too much doesn't like exercise, and you want to change, no chance you've got no chance, honestly. And if you do change, you're going to go back to where you were before, because nothing is really changed until you change.
Pete Cohen 13:24
Again, this doesn't necessarily apply to everybody because Pete Cohen doesn't know everybody but Pete Cohen is definitely know that's why I'm going back to what I said before about being a motivational speaker. People think that's what I do, but they've got no idea what I do most people but a lot of you that listen to me, you probably got a pretty clear idea of what I do. I'm obsessed with finding solutions for the problems that people have. And over the years I've been paid very well very handsomely but I would do it for free. You know I would do a lot of what I do for free because I love to help people find something in themselves that maybe they didn't know that was there to overcome who they thought they were to develop a new personality, knew identity, and be able to look back and go, I can't believe who I've become. I don't even recognize the person that I was. I'm not the person that I was. I'm a completely different person. So let's just go back to what you know, how we were hundreds of 1000s of you know 1000s of years ago when we were living in caves. We basically would not use energy unless we had to. So please understand this so important. Cavemen would not have gone for a run. Unless they had to of course they wouldn't say hey, let's go and do a half marathon. What? No chance. That'll be the most pathetic thing they would ever do. They would Why do that? So why should you exercise? When there's a part of you that thinks there's no point that's painful? Let's conserve energy. We're fighting against our, our past, but it's not just that that's one element. But what's really fascinating just so you know, that your brain rewards you for moving anyway. So you're fighting against your own makeup in many cases and your own identity of someone who could say, well, I've never liked exercise. I don't like it. That's like people who say I don't like water. I mean, what's that all about? We're made of water. How can you not like it? You've just you've convinced yourself that you don't like it. You've convinced yourself that you don't like exercise, but it's your body, telling your mind that you don't like exercise. Because you think like oh, I don't feel like exercising. So then you have the feeling that is in association with that that tells you you are right for having that thought. Well, what's really interesting is how the brain works, and the brain will try and trick you. How, why do I struggle to take responsibility? Because I'm not stepping back from what I'm doing. I'm not taking ownership from it. And I'm not beginning I'm not realizing that I can change the way I think, which means I can change the emotions I produce, which can change the way I feel which can change the way I act. But the question is, what do you want? Really, what do you want? I wrote this down to smile. I love some I love I love learning. I wrote this down this morning, about why because I know some people you know talk about it starts with why I'd say really? Really does it I say well, it's important but isn't it who because I have a big why but I just don't feel like it.
Pete Cohen 16:23
You know? So well that you have a big why if you don't know who the person is that you want to become and that comes back to the other part of our our makeup and this is so important. Just take a moment to think about this. I was listening to a guy called How hershfield Who's someone I just love. He talks a lot about future self. But check this out. And I when I heard this I just thought wow, I can't believe I've never thought of that. You think about how we're designed to conserve energy, right? That's obvious, right? But maybe you hadn't thought of it before that caveman would never have gone for a run. We have to convince ourselves we have to discipline ourselves. We have to make it a ritual to exercise we have to make it a non negotiable but then you might say I don't feel like it. Or Great, then you are voting for a future that you don't want because if you don't move you are voting for a future that you don't want. Come on. We all know that 97.3% of Americans are unhealthy by four basic measures. Body fat, if they're a female is over 30 Male over 20 They smoke they don't eat a healthy, balanced diet. And they don't do 150 minutes of moderate exercise a day. So it's either one or three or four. It's no surprise that people are unhealthy. Well, and this we can put the blame on people but let's just take a moment to look at this differently. So we understand that we don't move because we don't feel like it. Plus, we don't identify with someone who's fit and healthy or we did with someone who is in the past, as opposed to what is this going to look like in the future. If I did this if I exercise every single day, and then then I could say okay, but let me show you where that's going to where you're going to be if you do that, come with me. Come on. Let's go. Let me take you in my little time machine. I'll take you into the future. And let me show you how this is going to work out for you. And then imagine arriving and seeing that person. Maybe you'd think well you know what, I really want that I really want that. What do I need to do? But let's go back to being a caveman again. Caveman didn't think about retirement, cavemen didn't think about next month next year. No way Jose, whoever Jose is. All they were doing was just surviving. It all changed. When man found a way to cultivate and farm as far as we know, because then we had to be more strategic to survive. We then had to start looking for additional answers. We started to become more intelligent if you like, because all of a sudden we had to start thinking about a future and of course if you look at the history of man that you can think well what happened? Or maybe there were just certain people that took the role, became the leader and we all just followed those people. And then that's what happened with institutions in school and universities and work that we got people to operate the machine, right. We got people to just play a part of society rather than not taking responsibility. Other people will take responsibility
Pete Cohen 19:31
dogs so you know, this, for me was my favorite song when I was at school. Because, you know, we don't need no thought control. Many of us were just thought not to think for ourselves to just become to fit into a group to end up basically leaving school getting a job working, getting a job for life, then retiring. And just being a part of a machine you know.
Pete Cohen 20:01
So you can understand, it's hard for people to take responsibility for because many times in our life, we've never really had to take responsibility. You know, we can respond with the abilities that we have. But I don't think we respond as well as we could do. And it's challenging. I'm not here to tell you it's it's easier to sit on your backside and not do very much. You know, let's just look at this. I mean this is a this is a heavy and deep conversation. But let's just go back to those two things. What are we talking about here? We're talking about the way we are made, we are not designed to use energy unless we have to, right because you're being attacked or you need to eat. Right? That system is still within us and it's exactly the same system that is within us around the future. I can guarantee that most of you that are listening to this, you do not have a relationship to your future self that that goes beyond a month or two months or three months. That is not someone that you know, you know who you are. If I said who are you going to be tonight? How many of you know who you're going to be tonight? Next week, you know, I know some of the things I'm doing next week. I can picture myself there I can see myself behaving and I can see myself doing lots of things what about a month. Now for most people beyond that, this is where and we've seen this I've mentioned this so many times in the over 400 episodes of our podcast that we have, which is look, we can put you in a lab we can wire you up we can ask you questions we can ask you to think of yourself we can see a part of your brain light up we can ask you to think of a stranger we can see a different part of the brain light up or we can then we can ask you to think of yourself in the future like a year and for most people, the stranger part of the brain lights up. So why should we take responsibility for something that we don't know? You know why why bother? What's the point it surely is? It's better to sit down and just eat some Doritos right? And so Oreos, I saw some gluten free Oreos the other day, yes, let's have some of those because they're better for you. You know, we it's so easy and I really encourage you to start building a relationship to the possibilities that exist. This isn't doing a vision board because the problem with vision boards is that the vision people often don't see themselves in the vision board or they stick a picture of somebody else. to tap into the power of our imagination is to be able to see a future for yourself and you in the future. And this is the technology that we're working on. This is why we created this is why I created my 30 Day program last year 8000 people sign up 2.8% of people complete. Why? Because when it comes to taking responsibility if you don't know the outcome, and even if you do know the outcome you can forget about it. Because we get short sighted by nearer goals. We get short sighted by other things which give us a hit. That gets us out of our pain. And again, this is so important and so deep. Sometimes I don't even want to talk about it because I don't want to get too heavy. But when we think about what drives human behavior, you know, for years people have said it's you know, the desire to avoid pain and gain pleasure. I don't I don't know about that. I think it's a desire to avoid pain. Definitely. And what is pain? Well, I suppose pain is something that's uncomfortable. So what's uncomfortable? You know, it's a feeling right. So it could be physiological pain in your body. It could be sadness, depression, anxiety. And then you know, some people will ask what, who likes feeling that way? I don't think many people do so when they feel it. Immediately. They'll do something which alleviates the pain. And people often struggle to take responsibility because they don't want to give up on that. I talked about this a lot. But you know, I've always had challenges with chocolate in the past not anymore. But chocolate for me was always the go to as soon as I had money. The first thing I went down the road did was to buy sweets to buy something that gave me a hit. Just wanted to hit that's why we did drugs. That's why we did all the things we did when we grew up. We drank alcohol we just wanted to hit hit of something which gave us something in return. You know, but the long term effect of eating sugar as many people know is you know, it's causing problems. It was causing problems. You know, my mum was dying. I just saw a lot of solace in chocolate and I had to have a big wake up call with myself and realize that if I was my, my future self called me up, and basically like on the phone and just said, if you if you keep doing this, you're going to have diabetes. You know, I'm aware enough now that I'm building a relationship to my future. And I know that we all know that we are it's just a question of whether we want to do something about that. And I think many people avoid it. Because they don't know it. What if you didn't know it?
Pete Cohen 25:03
What if you actually could meet the person you could become and that person could come and say hello to you. Hey, how are you? This is your future self. I made a video I've made a few videos about this and I know other people have now as well because I'm challenging people. Let's build relationships to our future selves. Let's become the hero that we want to follow. Let's be like Matthew McConaughey who talks about the hero he talks about the person that he is chasing.
Unknown Speaker 25:33
And to my hero. That's who I chase. Now when I was 15 years old, at a very important person, my life come to me and say who's your hero? And I said, I'm not gonna think about that. Give me a couple of weeks. I come back two weeks later, this person comes up says who's your hero? I said I thought about it. You know who it is. I said it's me in 10 years. So I turned 2510 years later that same person comes bingo so you're a hero and I was like, not even close. No, no, she said why? I said because my heroes me at 35 So you see every day every week, every month and every year my life. My heroes always 10 years away. I'm never going to be my hero. I'm not going to pain that I know I'm not and that's just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on Chase. So any of us whatever those things are, whatever it is we look up to whatever it is we look forward to and whoever it is we're chasing to that I say amen. to that. I say all right, all right. All right.
Pete Cohen 26:30
Well, I find really interesting about that is the fact that people started laughing when he said that, you know, when he said about who he was chasing I introduced Steven Bartlett, who is very well known in the UK, he sold his business for 290 million. I don't even think he's 30 yet. And when he spoke, he talked, he talked about who he was chasing when he was 15, who he was pursuing. Who were you pursuing? Seriously, who are you pursuing most people in the world today? are just pursuing who they think they are. That's who they're pursuing. And then they wonder why they're just in a year's time. They'll be just like who they are right now. Rather than actually waking up to the fact you can fund you can be a completely different person if you want to create a new personal reality. And this is a social psychologist called Meg Jay. Listen to what she talks about in terms of our relationship to our future. Derek Parfit
Unknown Speaker 27:26
said, we neglect our future selves because of some sort of failure of belief or imagination. So I'm going to say that again, because it's really important. We neglect our future selves because of some sort of failure of belief, or imagination. But that's a problem, because research shows that our brains think about our future selves, similarly to how they think about strangers. And that's where the empathy gap comes down. It can be difficult for us to care about a version of ourselves that we haven't met yet. Yet. Research also shows that if we find a way to close that empathy gap between our present selves and our future selves, we start to think more about what we could do now to be kind to ourselves down the line. So the idea here is just to try to get to know your future self. Because when we spend time connecting with that person, we do some reverse engineering and we start to ask our present self questions about how our present and our future can come together or meet somewhere in the middle. Along the way. We start to ask questions like, How has everything I think I want going to fit? Or what does all this mean about what I need to be doing now? Or here's one of my favorite questions to ask yourself at any age. If I'm in a job or a relationship or a situation would like not to be in five years, then how much longer am I going to spend on this?
Pete Cohen 28:57
Fascinating, right? Absolutely fascinating. You know, you don't have to believe me, I've just spent years looking at this stuff. And still learning that our relationship it's very hard to take responsibility for your life. If you don't see where it's going. You know, everything we do. Human beings are very selfish and we do everything we do for a reason. Actually, everything we do is for a goal. Everything we do is for an outcome everything we do is for an end that's what we do everything we do, you go to the toilet, there's a goal you want an outcome. You cannot we everything we do is for an outcome, but ultimately, what are the outcomes we're chasing? I think ultimately they will be outcomes that most people don't want. That's my observation and I will keep banging on about this because I believe that every single day there is a phone call. In our everyday you're being called right. Every day. You're being called by your future self and it's annoying, right? You're not listening. Most people aren't. Most people are living a future they don't want you know, and if your future self was calling you up, what would he say? To you? I don't know. I'm not your future self. Hello. You probably say, you listen, you got a choice here. We can either create this future or this future. This is the future that maybe we need to think about. And if we take a moment to think about the power, taking responsibility and being example, not not just to ourselves, but to children, to show them that we can be better. We can be better. People often ask me about the growth mindset versus the fixed mindset and I think most people who said I've got a growth mindset are just kidding themselves. You know, a growth mindset is where you're open to possibilities you're, you know, you know, the power of you might know this stuff. But the the actual, for me, the ultimate growth mindset is you know who you're growing into. You've made a solid commitment to being that person. Let me just share a couple more things on this before we finish the podcast. I've been talking quite a lot. In fact, we've just made a YouTube video about Jimmy Donaldson the beast what a great example this guy is, this guy is phenomenal. He's a brilliant example. He is a fantastic example to any entrepreneur of how to play a bigger game. So six years ago, he made five video four videos, he scheduled those videos to be to go out one after six, one after six months, one year, five years, 10 years. And he's talking to his future self. Just listen to him talk for a second.
Unknown Speaker 31:30
You might be wondering, what are you watching and I just got a random spark of motivation to make a video and schedule upload it six months later. So yeah, I'm making this video right now and I have 8k subs. Hopefully
Pete Cohen 31:43
instead 8000 subscribers right? And in the videos, he's talking to his future self and he scheduled them to go out six months, a year, five years, 10 years. So the five year video came out last year, he had over 14 million subscribers from eight from 8000 to 14 million. And now he's got close to 90 million and that's the compounding effect actually from the fifth to the sixth year which again, so many people they don't they don't take responsibility because they don't know. They really don't now know at a deep down at a at a core level. What can be compounded? You know that how because most people have never done it because they never stuck to anything long enough to really see the long term benefit of it. That's why we created this start one stop one program and this app to specifically help people go tracking go hunt down, go chase, go pursue go be mentored by your future self. Don't be mentored by who you are right now. Because who you are right now has got you where you are. And if you're happy with where you are right now, that's fantastic. Why are you listening to this? I don't know. But there has to be more right? Because the purpose of life is what the meaning of life is what? Well, that's up to you. It's your life. It's not mine. It's yours. I think the meaning of life is to grow and his life growth. But the irony of growth is death is just how we're doing. And I know some people are much more challenged by that than others. Most of us are fortunate enough and lucky enough to be in a position where we can be the directors of our life. Just like Matthew McConaughey, we can be the right we are the writers, the directors, the producers, with the actors. By own law, we can actually choose our supporting cast. But most people choose what is familiar to them. And it's like Groundhog Day. It's challenging to step out of where you are to step into something you don't know that you could start to know it. Instead of avoiding a void a void I love that word avoiding the word avoid means to stop oneself to prevent oneself to put off and avoid is a completely empty space. So to step into a completely empty space means that you'd have to maybe let go of certain things and start doing things in a different way. But as I finished this podcast I want to ask you from someone who genuinely cares what will be your greatest ever achievement? Your life not what has been row husband, but we're still not out the game. What will be your greatest ever achievement because if you think that your greatest achievement will be who you choose to become. And I can seriously help you with that. If that's a game you want to play if that's a purpose that you want to pursue I want to thank you for for taking the time to listen. You know what you don't have to be could be somewhere else. What are you being called to do? Thank you so much for listening to the podcast. A genuinely appreciate you put money on me at five years old, becoming the person that I am today. Even never have put money on it money on it was diagnosed with dyslexia at 10. I was diagnosed with severe dyslexia and attention deficit disorder. I struggled
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to keep my focus of attention on anything. I've written 20 books published in multiple languages all around the world. I've spoken on stages to millions of people. I've been on television I was on television for years. I had my own TV show. Blah, blah, blah. I've worked with lots of great incredible people world and Olympic champions in sport. I've also just worked with normal, everyday people. My podcast has had over 400 episodes, and very consistent our YouTube channel. I don't know how many videos I don't know how many broadcasts I've done on clubhouse. I've missed one day on clubhouse in a year. i Why am I telling you this? Because I'm very consistent and I'm very very determined to become more than I am today and leave a mark on this earth. Maybe not everybody wants to do that. I don't know. But I encourage you to take a moment and to be excited about the possibilities that exist for you. As opposed to thinking there's something wrong with you and you're not right the way that you are. You know, I think you're amazing. The thing is, in all honesty. Who are you and who? Who are you choosing to become yes, we want a big why we want an even bigger who
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I think the greatest achievement will be who you choose to become one year on this Earth for the rest of the time that you have. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart listening to the podcast. You're amazing and I wish you a happy beautiful day.