Matt Fiddes being bullied at school, gave him the hunger and drive to be successful in martial arts, business and everything. He used his past to use it as fuel to move forward, get better, and ultimately realise that life is about giving back and helping others.
When you look at the statistics of those who have lost their lives to Coronavirus something becomes very clear. The vast majority of deaths have been of people who had an underlying health condition. They were already sick so they were more vulnerable to catching the virus and then less able to survive it.
When we feel threatened, as we do right now, our instinct is to focus on how we can survive. The primal brain leaps into action and it drives us to consume in vast amounts (which explains the panic buying, of course). We see what is going on around us and on the news and that amplifies the fear even further. There is another way, however. We have the opportunity to thrive.
What is interesting to me in all the people I’ve coached over the years is that their most compelling goals are not about what they can do for themselves but what they can do for other people. Even those who want to be fitter or to grow a business or find the perfect life-partner are doing it because of the impact they can then have on others around them.
Have you ever stopped for a moment and contemplated the fantastic achievement it is to be you? To have been born (the odds of the unique combination of sperm and egg, of DNA combinations, which create you are something like 400 trillion to one), to have grown into who you are today, to have survived the challenges life has thrown at you… You have to admit, it is pretty incredible.
The fixed mindset, as the name suggest is all about staying in the same place. Sometimes it is conscious: ‘I’ve never been good at Maths so I may as well not bother.’ More often, it is unconscious – driven by the example of everyone around us and wanting to fit in, or led by the primal brain trying to keep us from getting outside our comfort zone.