30 May, 2023The Power of Courage – How to Become Your Future Self
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela
Who is the future you? Who do you really want to be? Can you bring that person into reality?
Becoming your future self is not impossible, but it is also not easy. It takes courage to follow your dreams and stand up for yourself in a world that wants you to stay where you are.
Listen in as I divulge how you can be courageous enough to live a more impactful, fulfilled, and happier life.
The power to change is within you. Tap into it. Become the greatest version of yourself.
Be your future self now.
⚡️ One of the most courageous things you will ever do is overcoming internal resistance.
⚡️ Most of us compare ourselves to others or to our former selves.
⚡️ Conforming to the ideals of others is an act of cowardice that makes most individuals unhappy and unfulfilled.
⚡️ People massively overestimate defining moments in their lives and hugely underestimate the small things they do every single day.
⚡️ We can all live a virtuous life.
🎯 7:20 Cindy Solomon talks about the number of courageous people.
🎯 10:44 A story on Hercules.
🎯 13:00 The four cardinal virtues.
🎯 14:40 Uniqueness as explained by Robert Greene.
🎯 18:40 The power of courage
🎯 20:29 What courage is.
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Pete Cohen 00:00
Happy beautiful day. It is the Future Self Podcast. Today's episode is called the The Power of Courage - How to Become Your Future Self. I'll see you after the theme tune.
Pete Cohen 01:15
It takes courage in life, which to me is the Super Force. Courage is our ability to move through adversity. If we look what at what makes a human being great. I think so much of that revolves around courage. And in this podcast, I want to share with you how you can become more productive, more fulfilled by building more courage in yourself. You know what, I actually think it takes courage that to listen to this. Because chances are, as you listen to it, you're going to be distracted. Chances are as you listen to this, you probably won't listen to all of it. Because there's something in you that probably doesn't want to listen. There's probably a part of you that wants you to stay really where you are telling yourself the same old story. So what's really important as we delve into the power of courage, and how to become your future self is to look at what what actually is courage and who is your future. Self. Well, why don't we start off by just looking at what courage actually is. When I say the word What do you think about? For me, the first thing that comes to mind is the Lion, The Wizard of Oz, who doesn't have any courage, he's lost his way. And of course, he feels he's in lack and he's missing something and he has to go down the yellow brick road. He has to move through fear and adversity, to then be given a certificate by the wizard who's not really a wizard. That's what I think about what do you think about ultimately when you look at what the word courage means it comes from a Latin word, which means to have the heart. And I really liked that because I think rageous people have the heart to fight to stand up for the rights of others. But really, if you look at it from a dictionary point of view it means the quality of having a firm determination to do something, you say that again, the quality of having a firm determination to do something. What I'd love you to do is take a moment and actually think about in your life so far. What are some of the courageous things you have actually done? You know, human beings, we can be our own worst enemy. And we find it hard sometimes to kind of look and think or what have I done. If you look back, you'd realize there's been many things that you've done that perhaps you didn't want to do, but you rose, your you rose up and you behaved in a way where you positively impacted someone else's life. And what I want to explore with you today is how you could become more courageous, but I think it's essential also that we just take a moment to think about the future, because the title of the podcast is your ability to be more courageous to become your future self. So what is the future? Well as human beings, everything we do is governed by our relationship to the future. For years in the world of psychology, we we honestly believe that we were driven by our past. But what we now know is yeah, of course our past affects who we are and our personality and our identity. But really, everything we do is governed by our relationship, how we view the future and we know that most people don't view very far didn't evolve to think very far. You know, cavemen didn't have to think about retirement, didn't live very long. All life was about was about surviving. But now we all have an opportunity to think beyond today, tomorrow, next week, next month, even though there are many courageous things that we could do today. That would lead to a better tomorrow. But the word future all it means is time that is to come. What is going to happen an expectation of advancement or a progressive development. Latin it means what's going to be what's yet to be to exist, and some of the words associated with the future are forthcoming, imminent, impending planned, prospective, subsequent ultimate booked in the offering down the line later to be scheduled. Look forward from here to there. So what's your future looking like? I mean, what it's looking like is really up to you but what we know about courage, courage means the ability to do things that are scary our ability to do things that are frightening, our ability then to manage that fear. What we also know that anything that we want to achieve, we're going to have to move through something, move through the fear move through the resistance. It's fascinating if you stopped and thought three times in my life, if I felt like doing something, and I didn't do it, why he didn't feel like it. But also there was probably some resistance, you know, a part of you that just wants you to stay where you are. A part of you that is really good. At procrastinating, getting distracted, being lazy, being impatient. Being a perfectionist, ruminating, a part of you that really makes it very easy for you not to focus, the inability to focus your incapacity to follow through your complacency, the terror of finishing things, that part of you. And I'm sure that part has been there at some point in your life. It never resists. It never takes a day off. It's always there. Surely one of the most courageous things you will ever do in your life is make breakthroughs in that area. Again, I don't really know because I'm not you but what I do know is if we stopped right now, and we thought about being courageous, from a different perspective, and just taking a moment is what I want you to do now is listen to a lady called Cindy solemn and this is from a TED talk. And she is a leadership expert. Just have a listen to this.
Pete Cohen 08:09
So what about you? Do you see yourself as a courageous person? Most people wouldn't see themselves as a courageous person. They just see themselves as they have been, or have that or they see themselves in comparison to others. Because what I'm about to say is a challenge to say this and I feel even awkward saying it because of my association with the word I'm going to talk about. But what I'd like you to do for me right now is actually to say those words, I am courageous. I am courageous. Just to say that in a world where you know, our attention has been sold to the highest bidder that you know, we know that it's hard to focus our attention. I think you're courageous listening to this. I really, really do because most people wouldn't want to listen to this message because where's the reward in listening to this message? Where's that hit of dopamine that you might get from seeing someone doing a funny dance or jumping up and down or from eating? You know, an excessive amount of sugar just to literally realize that you are courageous because ultimately, what is it we all want? What is it that we all want? And I don't know everyone, but I genuinely believe that most people want to leave a legacy. Most people want to make a difference. But what I'm about to say is what do you think is the opposite of courage. word comes to mind because if you if you really look into this, there's a word that comes up that I don't have a great association with but it's the word coward cowardness. Coward cowardness doesn't just mean living in fear. It's poor. It means lacking courage. So when we can be reckless, thoughtless, we can doubt ourselves and we see how it's so easy for people just to conform to be like everybody else. Because really, I see cowardness being that most people are conforming. What other people think they should be and then always comparison comes to the table. And we know where is the world heading. Now we know that most people in the world today are extremely unhappy are struggling with their health, mental, physical, emotional. Why is that? I think a lot of is because we're conforming to ideals that really aren't making us happy and fulfilled and when we look at the door to a good life, what do you think that door is? There's an ancient story that I've said on this podcast, the story of Hercules who's walking down a road and two goddesses come up to him and one goddess says to him, Hercules, you can have the life that has been well trodden. It's the life of anything you want is yours, the fame the fortune it's all yours. You don't have to do anything. And that is the goddess of vise. Then the other goddess says, Who cares? I'm not going to promise you that I'm going to promise you a life of challenge. I'm going to offer you the life of obstacles, but through that you will grow and you will be fulfilled and you will inspire so many people. See when we look that's the goddess of virtue. Bison virtue, which door do you want to open? It's so easy to open the door of vice the vice of giving into temptation, the vise of you know sex, drugs, rock and roll alcohol. We know that that's the life that many people pursue. But there's a real lack of fulfillment in that really feeling like you're making a difference, and in many cases, making a difference to someone else's life. So when Martin Luther King said I have a dream, when Gandhi said Be the change that you want to see in the world when Barack Obama said yes we can. When Dorothy decided to go down the yellow brick road when Nelson Mandela decided to run for presidency, when Napoleon Hill was asked, Do you want to write this book? It will take your 25 years and you're not going to get paid. When my wife was given six months to live, and she decided to live, what's the ingredient of all of those things? It's courage. It's courage. And I think the more we see ourselves as separate to these people, the more pay ourselves down yet we all have the opportunity to do something courageous and live a virtuous life. See, when we look at ancient philosophy when we look at religion when we look at modern popular psychology, we see that this ancient world furs to current these Four Virtues these four cardinal virtues, courage, temperance, justice, and wisdom. And why are they called Cardinal? It's not because they come from church or authorities. It's the word Cardinal comes from the Latin word Cardo, which means hinge. Pivotal, see the door, I believe, to a good life is a virtuous life. Going through that door and it takes courage to go through that door. So when we look at self control, how many of us could do with more self control? Temperance, that's one of the cardinal virtues. Many of us it takes courage to not give into temptation. It takes courage to get out of bed when you feel like staying in bed. It takes courage to get on an exercise bike when you don't feel like it takes courage. Courage is a virtue that breathes life into self control. It breathes life into justice, which really for me, justice is love. When you love something and someone you stand up for them. wisdom, the wisdom that has been passed on to you, from your life experience and from the life of others. mean do you not see that the door to a good life is choosing that life? I'm not saying that's the easy life? And maybe that life isn't for you? Is Robert Greene who wrote the book mastery when I read that book, that was a big game changer for me, because mastery today is frowned upon people think you're weird. If you're getting better at something, why would you do that? Why would you spend your life dedicated to the practicing of of a martial art or to a meditation or to exercise or to prayer? Whatever it is, but I love what Robert Greene says. He says at your birth, a seed is planted. That seed is your uniqueness, your own leanness, it wants to grow it wants to transform itself. It wants to flower to its full potential. It has a natural, assertive energy. And he says your life's task is to bring that seed to life. To express your uniqueness through your work. You have a destiny to fulfill. The stronger you feel it and maintain it as a force, the greater your chance of fulfillment will be. Is that not? Courage is the courage to do that and we know we cause we live in a world that encourages us to do the opposite, have to conform to be like everybody else. And if you want to be like everybody else, then that's absolutely your choice. The greatest thing about human beings is that we have a choice. One of the most courageous choices you will make. That's up to you to decide and I want to touch on a few other things here that let's wake up to where you are right now. Right let's let's not analyze that sort of create a light criticize, it's just stop Stop, stop, stop, stop, stop. And let's look at where we are. Where are you with your health, you know, the three areas that I think most people are interested in improving. We talk about it a lot on this podcast, is your health and energy. How's that working out for you? You know, if you stand up and jump up and down if you can, and, you know, How's your health? How's your energy, your mental health is it what's going on for you? Maybe you need some help there. But maybe you look at your waist. And you think, you know that's not where I want it to be. I think it takes real courage to decide to get yourself in shape, and to wake up and realize that every single day when you get on your bike and you exercise when you don't feel like it that's a huge courageous act. Especially when you look at the fact that just in America alone, 97.3% of Americans are unhealthy by by four basic measures, living a future they don't want. It's called a default future default future is when you know most people I think know deep down, they're living a future they don't want and they think about it, but they put it to the back of their mind and then they behave in a way that's bringing that future to life. I think it takes massive courage to stop and look at the life you haven't think Hang on. Where am I right now? How much courage does it take to walk through a supermarket and not give in to temptation? You know that sugar is one of the most addictive things on earth. How much courage does it take to put down your mobile phone when you've been looking at it for hours?
Pete Cohen 17:43
much courage does it take for you to tell the people around you that you love them to be a good person to your partner? To make her a cup of coffee to cook for her to massage her feet? Whatever it is just to be. It takes courage to do that. I think it does. What about you? I think with your wealth and your work and your service. I think it takes courage to decide what your message is and do the work. Whether it's writing a book or getting up and speaking whatever it is standing up for the rights of others. Those are courageous acts. I think we miss out on the little things that make the massive difference. People massively overestimate, I think, defining moments in their life and hugely underestimate the small little things that we do every single day. I think it's time to wake up like never before and smell the roses. In those three areas. Where are you Where do you want to make some gains? Everything we do is a vote for our future self. See the power of courage is to realize that you can build carrot courage muscle by the little things that you do so you start feeling more courageous like I didn't feel like doing that and I did it I didn't feel like doing the washing up and I did it didn't feel like getting out of bed five minutes earlier and I did it. As you start to prove to yourself that you can break through procrastination. You can break through fear, doubt, anxiety. You can start being a shining example to to everyone. Oh, you'll come to the end of your life and you'll meet the person that you could have become and you're gonna want you didn't mean I could have become you. What I'd love you to know is the power of courage. Love you just to take a moment and think What do I now know about courage that I didn't know before. What I want you to do is some courageous act, whatever it is, whatever it is, as soon as we've I think it's well done for listening to the end of this podcast, I mean literally that's an achievement in itself. In a three second society that we're in apparently, I want to take my hat off to you to major achievement. And if I carried on talking for another 20 minutes I want you to do is something courageous, whatever that is. What I want you to feel I want you to feel courageous. I want you to feel empowered. I want you to feel like I'm ready. I am ready to be the change that I want to see in this world. What is courage? Courage is being brave. What is courage? Courage is your ability to stand up and say I matter I make a difference. I am courageous. I want to thank you once again from the bottom of my heart. Because that's what courage is. It's having the heart the heart to be better your future is unwritten and you have the power to change.